Of course I want someone. I think everyone wants someone. But me, I'm special. I refuse to give myself to just anyone. My someone has got to be a someone I can surely see myself with in the long run, because I am not up for one night stands or the 'we're just not working out' after only a month bit. You see, if I have someone, I'm considering them. For the long run. For marriage. So that someone better really be someone.
To be that someone, certain criteria will have to be met. A job, a resemblance of a plan for your life... good with kids is a strong point. Because if I find a someone, I'd like to try for a few of them. Another important, no, IMPORTANT, thing is the ability to communicate. If you're my someone, you'd better be prepared for some serious talks and maybe fights and definitely make-ups, because I won't just walk away and say you should've known, should've treated me better. Love doesn't work that way.
I also need a someone who is strong. Emotionally and physically. It's okay if you have low points, you're human... What I need is for you to recognize when I'm having mine, because I've learned not to show them. I'm guarded so I can be a someone for other people... And it'll take a long time for me to trust you with who I am. Please, be ready, and don't give up. Ask. Better yet, don't ask, and hug. If I cry you'll know. Also, please be ready to decide where we're going to have lunch some days. I don't want to pick all the time.
If you're my someone, I hope you enjoy traveling, or at least can get behind me in my desire (read: need) to travel. Culture is fascinating, language is enrapturing, and adventure is waiting. My whole career plan is based on seeing the world, and changing it for the better. I want to make sure that people who need things get them, and I want to see those people and places face to face. Equality, freedom. They aren't just words... They're ideas, they're handholds and footholds to new levels in world ideology. My someone will need to be at minimum supportive... But if you're an adventure junkie and can budget with me so we can go on trips together, consider yourself one step closer to being that someone who was meant for me.
The last vital piece for my someone is shared ideas. I'm religious, and it won't change. My God was here long before you were. But maybe you aren't. That's not a bad thing. But if you can't accept that I am, and be willing to give my beliefs equal credence to yours, you are not my someone. That belief also affects how I see me, and how I see you. I do hope and pray that we can share beliefs, since then this whole lifestyle would be a non-issue. Chances are likely that if they don't, you probably aren't my someone... It would be extremely hard to live peacefully together and raise kids with two differing ideologies, wouldn't it?
My ideal someone is a person who understands that a kiss isn't just a kiss to me - it's a token of affection, of worth, of importance. You don't walk around just kissing whoever you feel like kissing (if you do, you're not my someone!)... We all know it carries significance. To me, it means that you believe what I believe about me = that I am precious, worth protecting and fighting for. That I mean something to you that others do not. If you don't share this belief, please, just don't bother even discussing kissing (if you're unaware of what I believe, you may ask for clarification purposes) but for heaven's sake, don't just kiss me willy nilly because that's what you saw in the movies. I'd rather watch people kiss alone for the rest of eternity than be kissed and find out later it was just for fun, or something equivalent. I know, I'm weird. Old fashioned even. Oh well. It gets worse. I will not have sex with you unless you put a ring on it. I believe I am worth more than flings, casual or not... If you want that, you need to show me that you believe I am and will be your someone until death do us part.
See, my someone, if they come, will be a very special person. And yes, sometimes I'm lonely. And yes, maybe my ideals are too high and narrow. But I've tried to change them before, to make myself just accept more of society's norms so I don't get those weird, confused stares. I can't. And really, I'm not sorry about it. I love too hard to be let down who thinks it's okay to disrespect others, or refuses to talk about the issues. Because if you're my someone, and I love you, I will love you for the rest of my life, heartbroken or not. I will do my best to make you understand how much and why I love you. I really don't want to be heartbroken. I don't want to waste so much time and effort on a someone who won't understand. But I also won't give up on me. I will never be able to completely drop everything I want in life. I'm a dreamer. Without dreams, I'll be miserable.
If you genuinely think you're my someone, spend time getting to know me. Lots of it. Then ask. I will probably say no. To be honest, I'm afraid that someone will not understand and therefore never come. But make me love you, if you can. Don't ask lots, but don't give up, either. The day I decide to trust you with everything may very well be the day I decide to say yes.
My someone should also be aware of and accept that I believe in faeries. Mutual belief is not necessary, but would be gladly welcomed.
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